The day had finally arrived for direct confrontation, and that is what had happened.
Not at all shaken, but rather very surprised but amused to see how this conundrum would unfold. I let myself in this game while remaining vigilant.
I have gone to see an uncle, brother, and especially the more notable person of the family of the alleged father who, apparently had known my mother as a good friend. As his name was familiar to me, I often heard his name quoted by my mother as being a Good Samaritan. Someone who help my mother in trouble from time to time, this encouraged me to know him. I was pleased to meet him, to reciprocate if possible. I must admit that he was a really respectable and a perfect gentleman
I had no intention to enter into serious relationship with foreigners, but what did I have to lose? On the contrary, I could extend my family, at least, to have other friends.
To my surprise, another group had emerged, again at the instigation of that father, a pretty young lady came up to me and announced that she was my sister too, the eldest of a family of five children from a second marriage of this father. This was getting serious,
I had never asked to see the father nor that had he manifested himself either.
In the meantime, I pictured an image that stood in front of me, and I then understood why God or providence had left me outside of any human relationship father wise, which could have hindered the course of my destiny.
I could see right away that there was rivalry and hostility between two family members, the two first ladies had not spoken to me about the second group, but of the five members of their lineage. It seems that I had triggered jealousy, the first group was claiming the scoop for getting me before. A controversy that lasted until the death of all the members of the first group whom despite they were very young, but undermined by hatred and resentment.
It was a fascinating and curious situation that had made me understood another facet of life.
Even though, my home was opened to both groups, I understood that the first group thought that they were victims of all sorts of persecutions by the second group. Judgment that I considered reckless, because when we are floundering in negativity we poisoned our life.
I hold my guards to not let me get entangled in anything whatsoever. Although often solicited to give my opinion, I had played Solomon.
I witnessed the disappearance of three members of the first group in less than 10 years, all due to accidents or serious diseases.
One day, during the funeral of the brother (The notable Uncle), I finally met the mysterious father, who did not bear the same name of that uncle, his brother vaguely, we promised to talk to one another in order to further the discussion and establish certain relationship, if necessary, I did meet him once after that, and the last time was at his funeral.
A funny incident.
One day, while my mother was at home, one of the members of the second group was there too, while having lunch, one of my daughters made the presentation by telling my mother that she was my sister. My mother inquired how? She said whose daughter’s she was, at that news, my mother had protested vehemently, she sworn solemnly to have never had any relationship with this gentleman , her father, but confirmed having known the uncle very well as one of her best friend as I mentioned above.
I up to now continue to maintain brotherly and friendly relationship with the second group. The first being at the present time all decimated.
All this to say; God wanted to be my only Father. And I feel always covered with his shawl and in good company.
I am grateful to Him.
I want to tell everyone, especially to my friend’s colleague who had the chance to know the goodness of a human father, who left a so good impression on him, to let his soul return in peace to his creator, to be rewarded for having completed his mission by being a good model, instead of moping about his departure to finally merge with the truth, to try to imitate his work to become a good father also.
Let him rest in peace as he deserves it.
For those who have bitterness and who continue to blame their fathers for not discharging their fatherly duties, to regroup, because they only had to be brood stock only, so that the law of the world is respected, law that is prescribed: It is only by the coupling between a man and a woman that a soul should come in the world.
So, be reasonable, but try to find the link that connects you to the real Father.
Leave it in the hand of God the Knower, the Ubiquitous and the Omnipotent to fill this role as He pleases.
Oh, ye of little faith, trust in God who has better plans for you.
Tamara
December 11, 2018 at 9:08 am Edit
Have I not commanded you: Be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
I will not say THANK YOU for the good DAD that you are to me, but I will say rather that God has given me the chance to have a son, for whom I commend all the good deeds that you did/do for me.
August 5, 2024 at 11:17 am Edit
Frantz Rimpel
December 11, 2018 at 11:21 am Edit
Thank you for the Bible verse which is very appropriate.
Indeed, we must relay.
Richie the musician has already said his word on good and bad dads.
Holding a grudge against someone without knowing the reasons is a lack of faith.
There are many sowers but only one Gardener to whom The great garden belongs.
Jimmy St-hilaire
June 8, 2021 at 4:26 pm Edit
After reading this beautiful text a second time with its clear and very explicit style, I can only congratulate you on all counts. Firstly for your open-mindedness which makes you a wide open book for those who want to learn the importance of faith and kindness in the game of life. Secondly, for your courage to look yourself in the face in front of everyone through a text that says almost everything about you in a world where hypocrisy is now the rule and frankness the exception. I hold you in high esteem my friend for your decency and your devotion to lighting the way for others in every possible way. And finally, for your conception of the good Dad who,
rightly leaves no doubt about the merits of the heavenly Father who gave us life and jewels such as you to give us a taste for the non-existence that our bad choices complicate so much. Discovering God’s justice despite the sufferings endured is already an attitude of salvation that illuminates your soul in passing. This is how the flower that grew in adversity that you are never ceases to spread its perfume with a very dear smell in the atmosphere like a haven of hope for life that calls to life towards a perfect destiny. Your mother was your very first blessing despite her weaknesses. Your father was your greatest grateful witness that he could not have done better if he tried to behave like a good dad. Your sisters and brothers were lucky to see a family star sparkling with light like a piece of perfectly crafted Diamond after being pulled from the ground. Your work colleagues had been able to notice this distinctive mark on your image of a hard worker and dreamer that you forced yourself to present to them. And I, who am reacting to this message, am impressed by so many other stories that I learned from you. This is what it is like to have the chance to meet a real winner.
There is no life without a story but the story of life needs our stories to recreate itself beautifully in the hearts of God’s children. I feel amply served my friend and thank you very much for this sharing.
Frantz Rimpel
June 8, 2021 at 4:45 pm Edit
Now there, you have crossed the line.
Is there anything better to attribute to someone who exceeds a Nobel Prize? You have just invented it with this comment filled with flowers 🌷 and jewels 💎 . May this appreciation serve as consolation to all those who in a country like ours where these conditions are legion, but that religion, through lack of circumspection, has not presented God in his omnipresent and omnipotent angle, and who preferred to transfer these qualities to a devil whose power exceeds that of the Creator of the universe.
Jimmy St-hilaire
June 8, 2021 at 4:26 pm Edit
After reading this beautiful text a second time with its clear and very explicit style, I can only congratulate you on all counts. Firstly for your open-mindedness which makes you a wide open book for those who want to learn the importance of faith and kindness in the game of life. Secondly, for your courage to look yourself in the face in front of everyone through a text that says almost everything about you in a world where hypocrisy is now the rule and frankness the exception. I hold you in high esteem my friend for your decency and your devotion to lighting the way for others in every possible way. And finally, for your conception of the good Dad who,
rightly leaves no doubt about the merits of the heavenly Father who gave us life and jewels such as you to give us a taste for the non-existence that our bad choices complicate so much. Discovering God’s justice despite the sufferings endured is already an attitude of salvation that illuminates your soul in passing. This is how the flower that grew in adversity that you are never ceases to spread its perfume with a very dear smell in the atmosphere like a haven of hope for life that calls to life towards a perfect destiny. Your mother was your very first blessing despite her weaknesses. Your father was your greatest grateful witness that he could not have done better if he tried to behave like a good dad. Your sisters and brothers were lucky to see a family star sparkling with light like a piece of perfectly crafted Diamond after being pulled from the ground. Your work colleagues had been able to notice this distinctive mark on your image of a hard worker and dreamer that you forced yourself to present to them. And I, who am reacting to this message, am impressed by so many other stories that I learned from you. This is what it is like to have the chance to meet a real winner.
There is no life without a story but the story of life needs our stories to recreate itself beautifully in the hearts of God’s children. I feel amply served my friend and thank you very much for this sharing.
Gregory Paulemon
July 18, 2021 at 1:21 pm Edit
There is no greater father than the universal consciousness. There are many who have lived stories like yours. They all have one thing in common. The sublime cosmic essence chooses those who must contribute to the expansion of its kingdom. The moments of ordeal that you have experienced are the basis of the formation of your personality. A baptism of fire for all those who have been chosen to advance the level of consciousness of our world.
Frantz Rimpel
September 18, 2022 at 12:01 am Edit
Thank you Gregory for this appreciation and especially for saying out loud what I wanted to say quietly. We must respect all mothers, because being married does not mean that life is all rosy for most women who also bitterly regret having married someone other than God, the true Father, the first Husband of all women. In saying this, I am not blaspheming, since it is written in black and white in the great little book called the Bible: Matthew 23:9
And call no man your father on earth; for one is your Father, who is in heaven.
So, let’s be careful 🥰🤣
Jimmy St-Hilaire
June 20, 2023 at 7:10 am Edit
I just reread your text titled “good dad” and it makes my heart overflow with joy under the effect of your words of wisdom
Moments of distress stress us and constantly press us in order to instill in us the need to remain strong in the face of adversity
Like a bright beacon on the dark sea, our ship sails with hope even in the evening, when we look beyond the causes of our despair
All glory is to God whenever we manage to be in contact with the understanding of his will
For as the Bible says, his thoughts are not our thoughts and his ways are straighter than our ways
Here below as in the hereafter, He alone shines in enlightened consciences and oriented towards the happiness of humanity through the good traces left
Being alive is already a bet won and it is a prelude to the dangerous games to play to win the grand prize
The latter consists of embracing with a glance the immensity of the goodness, love and wisdom of God with a receptive heart full of gratitude for the precious gifts of life buried in each of the lives
Thanks to the harmonious development of our natural gifts, we will know how to contribute to clearing the way for other souls on the path to redemption
In the open air your words have remained uncovered like an open book waiting for the curious with sparkling eyes of a great thirst for new lights